How I Gain Control Of Stress

How I Gain Control Of Stress

It has been said that stress is the number one silent killer. Therefore, since we don’t know when it will attack, why not prevent it from happening. I mean, we want to live a happy, health life, right? Isn’t that ideal for what we want in life? I know I do.

What I DID NOT want is to take a bunch of drugs just to keep my stress under control. So I spent many years looking for ways to at least keep my stress level very low, but still wanted to find ways to prevent stress from attacking me.

After 20+ years of battling high levels of stress, I found ways to help control my stress level to point of preventing it. There are many ways to do this, but I narrowed it down to fours simple ways that can be done on a daily basis.

De-Stress #1


What I found when controlling stress is that a lot of it has to do with the mindset. The mind is a very powerful tool which is why, since I’m not a doctor, I can only tell you what I do. 

Can’t stress over things I can’t control.

Control issues has a lot to do with my anxiety. I felt the need to control everything so that if something went wrong I can at least say I tried instead of saying I shoulda, woulda, coulda, but didn’t. Now look what happened. But I have learned that, believe it or not, there are things that are out of my control. It was a difficult lesson learned.

I have also learned to say “whatever happens happens” or “it is what it is”.

This goes back to learning that many things are out of my control. As long as I am doing what I’m supposed to do, then that’s all I can do. For instance, the last company I worked for laid me off in 2019. I was only there for 2 years, but during that time I worked hard and did what I was assigned to do on a daily basis. Therefore, when I was laid off, I had no regrets. 

I used to let people stress me out…understand I said “let” people stress me out. 

After several therapy appointments, I finally understood that I can’t control others, but I can control how I react. For instance, if someone offends me, I forgive and forget. Not for them, but for me so I can get over it and move on.

Destress #2


My #2 destressor is staying active. I do this by going for a walk first thing in the morning and yoga afterwards and getting things done throughout that day that need to get done. 

Stay active

Walking is great because of the fresh air and the chance to clear the mind. I have gotten up with the sun and fog before. I enjoy walking first thing in the morning because there is less traffic and people. It’s just me and my thoughts which is nice for meditation purposes. Yoga is what I always do afterwards because now that my body is warmed up from my walk, it makes yoga that much easier to really stretch my muscles which wakes up my body giving me more energy throughout the day.

Get things done

One of my biggest stressors is procrastination. I have learned to write down in my monthly/daily planner what I need to get done around the house and in my businesses. This helps me plan my day and remember what I need to do…life can get pretty hectic juggling a part-time job, two businesses, I’m a wife, a mama to four fur babies, and I am a step-mom to a 16 year old. So when I say hectic, I mean HECTIC. Things have slipped my mind that I was supposed to do. Then, once I remembered, I would get really stressed because it was something that I really needed to do. I also found that estimating tasks that will take the least amount of time and working my way to the longest task made me feel like I really accomplished a lot at the end of the day. 

Destress #3


Get plenty of sleep.

If you have not read my previous post on how I get my sleep, be sure to check it out. After many years of taking OTC sleeping aids to help me sleep, I found other, natural, ways to help me sleep

use oils

Oils brings it all together. I use essential oils to get through my day. First thing I do is diffuse Young Living Peppermint and Young Living Citrus Fresh oils to start my day while I do my morning yoga. I’ll then take my Young Living supplements and a shot of NingXia Red to get my day started. I’ll also put on some Lavender and Ylang Ylang to help me focus throughout my day while staying calm. It also smells great! In the afternoon I’ll use my Stress Away to give me some relief from the chaos of my work day. Throughout the day I put a citrusy Vitality oils in my water to help me keep a pep in my step and give my water a flavorful boost.

Of course these are just what I do because they work for me. I have many more oils I use for different situations and how I feel in that particular moment. I also use Vitality oils in my foods and other drinks because how they make me feel; healthy. Plus, I know from experience, you only need a drop or two of the oils to flavor the food because of the oils potency.

Overall, try new and different ways that will help you destress your life. If something doesn’t work, you can tweak it or try something different all together. Just keep in mind that things don’t change over night. Keep at it and see what happens. It took me about a week to really feel a difference and a couple of weeks to get into the routine. Once I felt a difference in my stress level, it was easy to keep with my routine. Again, what works for me may not work for you. Find out what works for you and comment below. We would love to hear from you and cheer you on.

Happy Health!

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3 Steps To A Peaceful Nights Sleep

3 Steps To A Peaceful Nights Sleep

3 Steps To A Peaceful Nights Sleep

Do you find yourself waking up at least a dozen times throughout the night? Do you have problems falling asleep or falling back asleep once you wake up? Is it because you can’t turn off your mind?

This was me. I struggled my entire adult life to get a restful nights sleep. I was constantly waking up several times a night and having extreme difficulty getting back to sleep. My average night sleep? 2 hours and that was even restless. So I did what I had to to try to get the sleep I needed. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

I began taking over-the-counter (OTC) medication. I tried just about every sleep medication on the market. Well, after the first couple of years with minimal sleep (24 years ago) what else was I supposed to do. I needed sleep.  The big issue with these OTC medicines was that I HATED how I felt in the morning.

I had the worst time getting up and getting started. I was extremely groggy for a while in the morning. I didn’t want to do anything but go back to bed. When I did finally make it to work, I was a grouch! I didn’t want to be there, I didn’t want to do anything, I just wanted to go back to bed! And during the weekend when I didn’t have to work, I was really lazy. At least I got some sleep the night before! But at what cost?

After 23 years of trying different OTC sleeping aids and melatonin supplements among others, I decided that there has got to be a better, healthier way of getting sleep. I mean, sleep is a natural part of life, right? Therefore, there has got to be a natural way(s) of getting it. Isn’t there?

After speaking with my doctor and therapist, the answer is yes. Yes! There are natural ways to get a good nights sleep. So after conducting my own research, and taking some of the advice from my doctor and therapist, I found 3 things that help me get a good nights sleep to the point to where I wake up on my own ready to concur the day. These are simple and anyone can do these things that I am about to tell you. Are you ready?


I have to admit that this was a difficult one for me. But it makes sense why this is the first one. According to experts, electronics can stimulate the brain as well as reduce melatonin. These can definitely affect sleep quality and quantity. This was something I had to get used to real fast. Especially since I have my own businesses. I felt like there was so much to do in so little time, so I worked until I got tired the. Went straight to bed. Consequently, I did not sleep.

Taking my doctors advice, I set a cutoff time from all devices an hour befor bed to relax my mental and physical state which a crucial to getting a good nights sleep. After all, the outcome is that I get a good nights sleep so I have the energy to get up and started right away in the morning giving myself more stamina to get things done.


Yes! I love love love yoga. It is soothing and relaxing on my body. It relieves stress and tension by loosening he muscles and clearing the mind. I also do yoga in the morning to stretch my muscles and get me motivated. I also have a clear mind and positive attitude to overcome any obstacles thrown at me. After my yoga practice, I sit in peace for a few minutes to meditate which helps me breath throughout the day. I strongly believe yoga and meditation go hand-in-hand. You don’t have to meditate after yoga, but at night it’s taking that extra step towards a peaceful nights sleep.


Okay, so what is the final thing I do to bring steps 1 and 2 together? It’s what helps relax the mind, body and soul to help me stay focused and relaxed during my yoga and meditation and to help me get a good night sleep. USE ESSENTIAL OILS! Now, I don’t mean going to the store and purchasing a dozen essential oils for $20. NO WAY! I mean using the high quality, 100%, therapeutic-grade essential oils. Essential oils directly from the plant, tree, flower, and other parts of nature and put into the bottle with NO added perfumes or other non-earthly substances created by man. The pure, therapeutic-grade oils I speak highly of are Seed to Seal Oils. Learn More Here

Now, you may be wondering how essential oils bring it all together. What oils do I use to help with all of this? Well, I use a different oils in different ways.
  • Before my yoga, I apply Stress Away and Peace & Calming to help relax me while I’m working through my yoga and meditation. The essential oils that make up Stress Away are Balsam Copaiba, Lime, Cedarwood, Vanilla, Ocotea, and Lavender. The oils that make up Peace & Calming are Tangerine, Orange, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, and Blue Tansy. All of these oils combined help make yoga and meditation a relaxing and stress-free practice.

  • After my yoga and meditation and before bed, I use my diffuser I put in my bedroom to give me a restful nights sleep. The oils I use for this are Lavender, Peace & Calming, and Stress Away. I recently started diffusing Bergamot to help me sleep which seems to work really well for me. Using these oils my husband is even sleeping better. Hallelujah!
For an extra booth, I will use Lavender on my feet, back of my neck, and wrists. Yes, Lavender Essential Oil is safe to use directly on your skin. So you better believe I use it all day everyday to keep me relaxed.

Since I began using these methods to help me sleep about 7 months ago, I feel so much better now that I am getting sleep. I feel better, make better decisions, peppier, more focused…well, you get the point. We all know, or at least have an idea, of what lack of sleep can do to a person. It’s very dangerous.

Therefore, if you are having trouble sleeping, I encourage you to try these methods mentioned about. Keep in mind, though, that it does trot happen over night. Once you start, just stick with it for a while and adapt these methods to what works best for you. For instance, you may need to adjust the time spent when doing yoga or meditating. You may need to use more oils or less. 

I wish for you lots of sleep, peace, and a stress-free lifestyle.

Happy Health!

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So this video is really out of my comfort zone, but I really wanted to demonstrate how to use essential oils in food using the Young Living cookbook recipes. If you want the entire recipe, you can purchase it using the “Place An Order” link on this website.

Exposed Wire Earrings

I really enjoy using this beading wire in my jewelry pieces. It is smooth with nice color. I enjoy using it to create floating necklaces. I hope you get inspired from my video.

Intermediate Jewelry Making Theme Week Video #2

Just a fun little tip that you can wire wrap beads on just about everything. That’s what I did here in this video but I wire wrapped leather. 

What piece of handmade jewelry have you write wrapped?

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